Friday, September 28, 2007

Changes

I'm going to try to be back here now, at least to some extent. I just haven't felt much like writing recently. There has been very little humorous going on in my life of late.

My husband and I are separating after nine years of marriage. We will be getting a divorce.

I'm not going into the whys and the wherefores here. It's a private matter. Suffice it to say it is the correct move.

So now I'm on the divorce diet (consisting of coffee, cigarettes, and crap), which has already dropped me down another nine pounds from the last time I mentioned my weight (147 current), and is likely going to knock me down a few more until I get back on the quitting smoking wagon.

Oh heck yeah, I'm smoking right now. Like a bloody fiend. Fortunately, I know I can quit and the Elder offspring is nagging me mercilessly.

No more mercilessly than I'm nagging myself, I assure all of you. I'll be back on the Chantix before the end of the year and get this stuff over and done with once and for all.

So anyway, there you all have it, in all its Reader's Digest Condensed Version glory.

My sense of humor will return. It makes the odd peek out here and there even now, and when something mildly amusing strikes me I'll be sure to put it up here lest y'all think I've keeled over or something.

For now, the good things in life are a) that it's Friday, and b) that it's payday.

Can't ask for much more than that regardless of one's life situation, now can you?

15 comments:

Awesome Mom said...

Awwww man that sucks!! Hang in there !

Babs RN said...

My God, Hun. I am so sorry to hear that.

Sitting in Silence said...

I know I have left only a comment or 2, but I just wanted you to know that I went through this with a friend more like sister 3 years ago. I now everyone is different but, it's still rough going...

Take care and look after yourself.
D.

maggie's mind said...

Ouch. I'm so sorry. Not easy.

Mark said...

Praying for you and your family. If you need to talk about it, please feel free to send me an e-mail.

Dr. A said...

Bummer. Hang in there...

AtYourCervix said...

Hang tough Amanda - things will get better. I've been through this route myself - started my divorce process 6 years ago. Mine was unbelievably messy. My best advice? Get a GOOD lawyer, and do whatever it takes to pay that lawyer. I ended up going through 2 lawyers, and finally representing myself pro se at the actual time of the divorce, and it was one of the worst mistakes. I now pay a 3rd lawyer - a much better one I might add - to help clean up the post divorce mess.

You know my email if you need to vent.

Heidi said...

:(

Scott said...

Oh Amanda, I am so sorry! That just sucks!

Writing can be a good outlet, so I'm glad you are keeping up the blogging!

Mauigirl said...

Amanda, I'm SO sorry to hear this! Even if it is the right thing to do, I'm sure it's terribly hard, and I just want you to know I'm thinking of you. And I don't blame you for taking up the smoking again! I'd do the same. As the old "Airplane" movie said, I guess you "picked the wrong week to quit smoking."

Angel said...

Sending more love (((((tender hugs))))))

You know I'm here for you, whatever, whenever.

And don't beat yourself up about the smoking. It's totally understandable.

Hang in there sweetheart.

Fraochán said...

I'm so sorry. But there is a reason for everything - and even if you can't see it right now....things will get better. And put out that damn cig and throw on a patch! (Not birth control patch, rather that quit-smoking aid!) Life will get better......take care!

Medblog Addict said...

I haven't been out in the blogosphere much lately, so I'm just finding out about this. I am so sorry you are going through this. Please know that you and your family will be in my prayers tonight. Take care. And if you ever want to vent to a friendly stranger, you have my e-mail address.

tz said...

Even though you don't feel like you have much humor now, it'll most likely keep you sane through most of this!

my friend lost a ton of weight on the divorce diet, you could always write a new weight loss book!

but seriously, i'll keep you in my thoughts.

Tracee said...

The bad thing about divorce is that no one wants one and half us us get them anyway. I'm going through something similar. We're trying one last thing at Vow, I wrote about it here: http://traceesioux.blogspot.com/2007/09/we-vow-now.html .

I came here because Maggie had you as a recently quit smoker and it looks like that didn't take. If you ever want to quit again you can come on over to Quit Coping for support at www.quitcoping.com .

I'm sorry for your pain. I share much of it myself right now.

Tracee